JUNE 12, 2014.  It’s hard to earn trust and marriage can be stressful depending on a person sometimes. People love each other enough to have a wedding, but how long is the marriage going to last? It seems as building a relationship is more important than just marriage. I interviewed Mrs. Potts last week just to find some first-hand information. She told me that you need to have a commitment and once that is established, basically, the bond cannot be broken.  Her best advice was that communication is the number one priority. 

I asked Mrs. Potts why she got married. “I wanted that companionship and commitment,” she said. Her marriage is different because their family is blended. She and her husband had children by different people before they met. Mrs. Potts has been married for 5 years now. 

Being curious about the process, I asked her what the steps were before walking down the aisle.  We talked about applying for a marriage license. You have to call the marriage license office and they’ll give you the information. It depends on where you live and where you want to get married.

I also asked Mrs. Potts my most burning question… was she afraid to be cheated on. “Yes,” she said. "It’s natural to love someone who doesn’t love you. It happens. That’s why you have to learn from it. On top of that, people do get played during marriage. You should pick the right person, trust that person and don’t let people use you.”

If you want a great relationship, you need to have good qualities and look for good qualities. The most important quality of that relationship is communication. Friendship is the number one step towards that. Find the one who’s right for you and who has a lot of feelings for you as much as you have feelings for that person before you even decide to marry that person. Don’t be a side dude either!

Overall, my interview with Mrs. Potts gave me some insight about marriage and relationships. We’ve talked about how long will the marriage and relationship last and how to build trust in that relationship. I’ve taken her advice to "be patient and it will come to you". I personally don’t need anyone special right now and I’m not ready to get married anytime soon.

Steven Lockridge is a graduating senior at the Academies at Anacostia.